Creative Caregivers: Wendy

The Creative Caregivers blog series aims to highlight the creative work of individuals who care for someone living with dementia. Often, these creative works have been helpful or comforting in some way for the caregivers who created them. We hope that they are helpful and inspiring for you, too. In this blog, we are highlighting a song written by Wendy and her partner, Jim.

 

Two years ago my life partner of over 20 years was diagnosed with a form of Alzheimer’s called posterior cortical atrophy. As you may know, even though the memory disappears, the connection of music to the brain miraculously remains intact and Jim can still sit down at the piano and play as he’s always done. Last year, in thinking of what lay ahead for me as his 24-hour a day caregiver, I came up with the idea and melody for a song – “I will be your memory”. We recently put it on YouTube.

 

 

In addition to Jim’s neurologist showing the video at two workshops, and the Alzheimer Society of Toronto publishing it on this blog, I followed up by checking out the U.S. Alzheimer’s Association and became a member on their site. They have various message boards that affected caregivers can look to for help and solace or just general information on different aspects of looking after family members affected by this sad problem. Last November I posted the above little story under the heading, “A way to deal with a loved one losing his or her memory.” The message boards maintain a running total of those who have looked at the different sites and as of this writing, an amazing number of over 2,000 people have read my words!  Although there’s not a lot of feedback, it’s remarkable how many have at least opened it and I do hope the simple message for someone to try saying “I will be your memory” has helped some of their members as well as you reading this today.

– Wendy

 

Lyrics:

I WILL BE YOUR MEMORY

Composed by Wendy Sommerville & Jim Doris

© SOCAN 2015

I will be your memory.  I promise this to you.

When your mind is far away, I’ll be nearby for you.

I’ll talk to you of all the many places we have been

And when you say you don’t recall, I’ll simply start again.

 

We’ve been together for so long if you were gone I know

I’d be a bird with just one wing; the moon would lose its glow.

My life would be all Wintertime without a sign of Spring.

A sea without a shoreline; a kite without a string.

 

I will be your memory for the time that we’re together.

I’ll hold your hand on rainy days.  Rejoice in blue sky weather.

I’ll talk to you of all the many places we have been

And when you say you don’t recall, I’ll simply start again.

 

We’ve loved each other for so long it’s hard for me to see

How fate has crept in unaware to take your memory.

But I will stay right here with you; hope time will not erase

Remembrance of those dear to you; a still familiar face.

 

I will be your memory.  I promise this to you.

When your mind is far away, I’ll be nearby for you.

I’ll talk to you of all the many places we have been

And when you say you don’t recall, I’ll simply start again.

I’ll simply start again.

 

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